Can You See Me?

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Have you ever felt INVISIBLE?

I did, most of my life. But I always felt that I was meant for more. That I was meant to be seen.

My feeling of invisibility came from my desire to please people, but always feeling I was falling short.

Little did I know, at the time, that I needed to be seen by ME first.

People are selfish. And I don’t mean that in a bad way. We’re supposed to be selfish, but we forget what that really means.

We need to take care of ourSELF first. We need to love ourSELF, nurture ourSELF, CARE about ourSELF, SEE ourSELF for who we really are.

But we’re conditioned to believe that selfish is a bad word…something we should feel guilty about if we are.

We are conditioned to gain acceptance of others. To not make waves, to follow the straight and narrow path.

We worry about what others are thinking about us.

“What should I wear?”
“How should I look?”
“What if I say the wrong thing?”
“What if they don’t like me?”

But we lose ourselves on the path because it’s not ours.

I’m a seeker, a questioner. I drove my parents and teachers crazy with all of my “why?”s.

In the course of my seeking I discovered that I will never please any of those people.

The path I was on was not getting me to fully express my unique talents and ablilities.

I was marching away my days following someone(s) else’s ideas, based on their limited thinking. They weren’t SEEING me because I wasn’t BEING me.

I can only control ME, my thoughts, my feelings, my destiny.

This is why I’m a Life Transformation Coach. I want to help my clients remember themSELF again. To put the oxygen mask on their face first, then bring the best of themSELF to their loved ones, their projects, their passions.

So they can be SEEN again. No more INVISIBILITY. Embrace your uniqueness.

You are here to feel JOY and to experience all of the beauty this world has to offer, in the way that makes YOU happy.

Because when you feel JOY, everyone around you will begin to feel it too.

The best way to make your family, neighborhood, favorite charity, business/workplace, world, better, is to be your best SELF.

If this message resonates with you, please feel free to connect with me and start a conversation.

To your best SELFish SELF.


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You Don’t Deserve to Win!

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“If you’re not willing to do whatever it takes to change your situation, then you don’t deserve to win!”

These words were spoken to me by my mentor, Bob Proctor.

They may seem harsh, and at the time they were spoken I was really angry.

How dare he tell me I didn’t deserve to win! I was changing things! I was doing what it takes to make my life better!

Or so I thought.

This was the wake up call I needed. As harsh as those words seem, Bob was right. If I wanted to sit around and complain that, I did this, or I did that, but, oh poor me, nothing was happening, then I wasn’t doing enough.

He gave me a GIFT by being blunt.

I was still resisting the abundance that was mine. The world doesn’t have to change for me, I have to change myself.

If I really wanted to make a change in my life, I needed to go deeper than before. I needed to ignite change at the level where my results are created in the first place. I needed to change my mind!

Doing it by myself wasn’t enough. I needed guidance.

So I began working with a coach and working through a process that systematically guided me to shift my thinking and see what was possible.

The program is called “Thinking Into Results”. And just as the name states, as I shifted my thinking I began to see new results, almost immediately!

This was not some self-study program where I read a book and hope things will change.

This was roll up your sleeves, hands on, thought provoking learning and application.

Every day I studied. I watched videos of the master, Bob Proctor, teaching each lesson. I had reading assignments that expanded on what Bob was teaching. I had writing assignments that forced me to think about how this lesson applied to my situation. Every week I spent 60 minutes with my coach. And I took action!

I took MASSIVE ACTION and my results began to change. I began to change.

The process was simple, but it wasn’t easy. There were a lot of emotional ups and downs because I was shifting my belief system. I had to ask myself hard questions. There were obstacles in my path, mostly within myself. But my coach kept me accountable with the daily study and our weekly calls.

He helped me see that I had what I needed to succeed. I just had to keep going and keep working on ME.

I went from seeing what was wrong with me, to seeing all that I loved about myself. I was seeing my strengths and building upon them. I was making changes in how I behaved in my professional life. I was seeing all of the POSITIVE OPPORTUNITIES lining up for me to move forward and grow.

Once I gained the AWARENESS of what IS POSSIBLE, there was no way I could go back to my LIMITED THINKING.

I was making PERMANENT CHANGES that were creating a new ABUNDANCE for myself.

I LOVE this program, “Thinking Into Results”, so much, I became a coach and now I work with my clients to make those big changes for themselves. And I LOVE watching them GROW and ACHIEVE the SUCCESS they want.

Ask yourself “DO I DESERVE TO WIN? Am I doing all I can do to make the PERMANENT CHANGES I need to ACHIEVE THE SUCCESS I WANT?”

All you have to do is look at your results. If they’re not what you want, then something has to change. Your MARVELOUS MIND.

I can help you, just like my coach helped me. Just like Bob Proctor’s mentor helped him when he was 26, miserable and broke.

If you seriously want to WIN then LET’S TALK.

Email me at

I KNOW you can BE, DO, or HAVE anything you want. And I will keep you ACCOUNTABLE to GET IT DONE!


To your Success and Abundance!


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Here’s what one of my wonderful clients has to say:

Didi King, life has been an amazing journey learning to take control of myself rather than letting the outside world control me. I truly look forward to the future. My life keeps getting better and better every day. I am so grateful you woke me up, inspired me to take that first step to join the program on my own terms.

I am on the last lesson on the “Thinking Into Results” program and I have made a lot of changes for better in my life and career. The program is mind blowing how fast I noticed shifts happening.

—Bill Atkinson

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5 Things to Consider When Choosing a Great Personal Coach or Mentor

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Personal growth is an industry that generates over $10 billion in annual sales, according to experts. You can purchase books, CD’s, and programs; attend seminars and workshops; or hire a personal coach.

All of these methods have the potential to change your life, if you study and apply what you learn.

If you are a motivated, self-starter you may be able to get by with a book or two, or perhaps a weekend seminar. If not, you may want to consider hiring a coach or mentor.

Coaches can have many titles: Personal Growth Coach, Life Success Coach, Personal Development Coach…and the list goes on. Regardless of the title there are a few things you may want to consider when choosing a coach for yourself.

I have a list of 5 things I look for in a coach:

  • Genuine passion for coaching
  • Positive attitude
  • Invested in your success
  • Have an organized system in place
  • They continually study and work on their own personal growth

Let’s look at each of these qualities.

Genuine Passion for Coaching

Coaching should be a passion for your potential coach. They should love helping people find success. Their first objective should be service to their clients.

If coaching is just a J.O.B., a means of earning a paycheck, then you may want to consider passing them by.

Do some research, what do their students/clients say about them as a coach?

Ask them for references. You can check out their website. They should have some testimonials posted there as well.

Use your intuition. How do you feel when you talk to them.

Are they connecting with you heart to heart?

Do you feel their passion?

Intuition is a powerful tool.

Positive Attitude

A positive attitude is key to success.

Have a conversation with your prospective coach. Do they speak positively about others or do they share their client “horror stories” with you?

Personal growth depends on your attitude and the attitude of the people you spend time with. You want your vibration to be high as much as possible to have optimal personal growth. You certainly don’t want to spend time with a coach or mentor who is going to leave you feeling emotionally drained.

I have a mentor I absolutely love. She is always positive. I have never heard her utter a single negative thing about anyone. I always feel happy and uplifted when I hear her speak or read her books. Guess what? She is extremely successful, as are her clients.

Invested in Your Success

A coach who is invested in your success will take time to listen to you. They understand where you’re starting from…what are your hopes and fears? What has held you back in the past?

Your coach should provide you with guidance and honest, encouraging feedback. They should hold you accountable without doing it for you.

A good coach is much like a good parent. You have to know when to “do” and when to “show”.

A great mentor teaches their student to draw from within themselves the solutions that are already there. When the student learns how to draw from within they have the confidence to use this strength to solve problems that arise after they have left the nest.

A great coach is going to check in on your progress. They want you to succeed because it’s their passion to help you. They find joy in the success of others.

Organized Systems in Place

You’ll want to know upfront what kind of system your coach has in place. They should be organized or have an assistant that helps keeps them organized.

You’ll want to know what type of communication you’ll have with them and how often. You’ll want to know that they’re reliable and available when you have questions.

I had a terrible experience with a coach who promised one coaching call each week. I would schedule them through his scheduling software, but 90% of the time he either didn’t show up or cancelled our calls. There was always a good “excuse” but it was very frustrating. I didn’t feel that he was invested in my success.

Now the positive in this is that it taught me that I wanted to be a reliable coach for my clients. If I say I’ll be there for a coaching call, I will be there.

Continuous Study and Personal Growth

The best coaches will tell you that you’re never done learning. You’re either moving forward or backward. If you stop learning, you’ve stopped making forward progress.

Ask your coach if they have a mentor or coach of their own; they should.

Find out what kind of study they do and how they continue their own personal growth. What kind of ongoing training are they doing? What are they reading? Whose seminars are they attending?

They should also be a “Product of the Product”. If they’re using a program in their coaching, they should have gone through the program themselves and achieved the kind of success they’re promising you.

There are plenty of other factors you could consider in finding a great coach for yourself. The five I’ve shared with you are the five things that are most important to me because of the experiences I’ve had with coaches and mentors.

Just remember these wise words from Jim Rohn, author and speaker:

“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future;
it is something you design for the present.”

The right coach can show you the path to your own happiness and success.

Take some time and find the right fit for you.


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The Biggest Obstacle to Success Is Not What You Think

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“What’s crucial is to begin. Things happen and opportunities appear most often when we’re moving, not standing still. Momentum is vital. Basic physics says it’s easier to alter the course of a moving object than to start movement initially. In the end, it’s not really about finding yourself. It’s about making yourself. The first steps are the hardest, but the key to success in anything is getting started.”—Michael Josephson – Law Professor and Speaker

If you ask people what holds them back from their dreams they might answer with one of the following:

  • Not enough money
  • Not enough time
  • Not enough education, or not having the right education
  • Fear of Failure

There are numerous answers to this question, but the truth is this, the only thing that holds you back from the dreams or success you desire is YOU!

Take the opening quote by Michael Josephson. “What’s crucial is to begin.”

If you won’t take that first step then how can there be a second step, or third step toward that dream? If fear of failure is holding you back from making that first move, keep in mind that you’re not a failure if you fail, you’re only a failure if you stop or you don’t even try.

Thomas Edison failed about 10,000 times when he was creating the incandescent light bulb. Most good inventers fail numerous times before finding success. Where would we all be if everyone ignored their imagination and gave up before starting?

Someone once told me that whatever you desire, once you state decisively that you desire it, it is here. You just have to catch up with it. I love that! Anything that I truly want is already here. I will not give up until I catch up with it. There have been,and there will continue to be, failures along the way, but they are just speed bumps, temporary distractions in my journey to my dreams.

If you think about what my friend said…it’s already here…then you realize that you are already successful. You are already in possession of your dream. Hold onto that vision for a moment. You are already who you want to be and enjoying what it is you want.

So how do you catch up with it? Momentum! You have to take that first step and get moving.

First Step

The first step is to decide what it is that you truly want. Set a goal.

The key to goal setting is not to limit yourself by what you see or think will hold you back.

You don’t have to know how to get there, you just have to know that you can.

Let your imagination run wild. Remove all perceived obstacles from your mind as you start to work through what you truly want.

Allow yourself a good portion of time, say 30 minutes, where you won’t be distracted by anything, and start a shopping list.

Ask yourself, “what would I love?” Write down everything that comes to mind. When your 30 minutes are up, take a look at your list and pick out the top two or three things that jump out at you, or that you feel a strong emotional reaction to. This is your goal.

Now, don’t start worrying, “how will I ever make this happen?” That’s just you trying to hold you back again.

The greatest inventors had no idea how they were going to achieve what they set out to do. They just had a burning desire to make it happen.

Remember, it is already here, you just have to catch up to it.

Second Step

The second step is to write out your goal in as much detail as you can.

  • What are you doing?
  • What are you feeling?
  • What do you see?
  • What do you smell?
  • Who are you with?

Details, details, details.

The more you can imagine, the more real it will appear to be. Get emotionally involved with this process. Get it ingrained in your mind so that you can immediately bring it to the front of your mind whenever you desire.

Third Step

The third step is to revisit this goal daily. Repetition is the key to making things happen.

It’s a good idea to keep a goal card with a short statement of your goal that sparks the vision you just created.

Carry this card with you wherever you go and look at it often. I’ve set up reminders on my phone at four times during the day with my goal written into the reminders. I always have my phone with me, so I always have my goal reminders. Do what works best for you.

Fourth Step

The fourth step is to have a feeling of gratitude for this goal, as if it has already manifested. The more attention you give to it, with gratitude, the easier it will be for you to recognize opportunities opening up for you. The more inspired action you take from those opportunities, the sooner it will be yours.

Get that momentum going so you can catch up with it sooner, rather than later.

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The Mathematical Equation for Success

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The Mathematical Equation for Success

The formula for success has long been sought after by many an ambitious person. There have been thousands of books written on the subject. If you go to and type in “books on success” in their search engine it will give you 89,862 results.

Each author claims that their idea is “the one” to bring you success and fortune beyond your wildest dreams.

The truth is that success can be achieved by a simple mathematical equation. Does that sound to good to be true? It’s not. Success is a simple formula based on your individual daily actions.

Every day is either a success or failure in relation to the actions you perform that day. Every action is either effective in moving you toward your goal (success) or inefficient and prevents movement toward your goal (failure).

Each day you must do all that can be done that day in relation to your goal.

That being said, don’t mistake the quality of your actions for the quantity. Spend as much time as is needed on a particular action to make it a successful action. Be as efficient as possible with each action. If there is a better way of doing something, then do it.

Don’t overfill your schedule so that you rush through as many actions as possible. You can’t do a week’s worth of actions in a single day. That isn’t an efficient use of your time. It isn’t the number of things you do each day, but the efficiency of each separate action that makes the difference.

If your day is filled with three or four actions related to your goal that you perform efficiently your day is a far greater success than if you complete a dozen actions that are done half heartedly just so you can get through them.

The point is to choose the actions that you know need to be done to move you forward. Only put on your schedule what you know you can accomplish for that day. Perform each action to the best of your ability. Don’t procrastinate when you know there is something that has to be done today. You have no idea how the failure of even the most trivial action will affect your future.

Once you have made the decision to work toward a particular goal, the forces of the universe begin working for you to bring all that is needed to achieve that goal. However, each day that you fail to do what is needed to be done delays the arrival of the people, places and things that are coming together to help you succeed. You may miss an open door of opportunity if you are failing in your daily actions.

You control how you perform each action which means that you control your own success or failure.

I promised you a simple equation for success. Here it is:

(Successful day) x (every day) = Success

(Failed day) x (every day) = Failure

It really is that simple. Do all that you can do each day and make each action effective in moving you toward you goal and you must achieve it.

Here’s to your success.


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What Do I Have to Be Grateful For?

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Gratitude. It’s a buzzword. You hear it all the time.

I’m sure your mother told you to “be grateful that you have food. There are starving kids out there!” when you were reluctant to eat that pile of peas on your plate.

What does it really mean to have gratitude? And why should I be grateful?

Gratitude gives you a positive perspective. When you’re grateful for what you have you can allow more good things into your life.

Set the Tone for Your Day

Positive thoughts perpetuate more positive thoughts. If you start your day with gratitude you will set a positive tone for the entire day.

“Give light, and the darkness will disappear of itself.”
Desiderius Erasmus – 1466-1536, Theologian

I’m sure you’ve met that person who always seems to have a sad story to tell. Their car broke down, and their kid is sick, and the dog has fleas, and the refrigerator doesn’t work and all the food in it spoiled, etc., etc. The old saying, “misery loves company” is really a true statement.

If you start your day off with negative thoughts, they will continue to snowball unless, and until you turn them around by grasping a positive thought, and then another, and another.

The sooner you recognize your thoughts as negative and can switch gears, the better off you will be. What you send out into the universe is what comes back to you.

How do you switch gears? That’s a great question. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the misery we’re feeling that we don’t see a way out. The emotion of despair or anger can be very strong, especially if you’re just starting to work on being positive. There are a couple of things you can do.

A Fresh Perspective

First, you need to recognize the emotion you are feeling as negative. Then immediately take a breath and try to step back from it. Look at it from someone else’s perspective. “If I heard someone talking this way to me, what would I think?” “What would my best friend think if they knew I was feeling this way?”

Taking yourself out of the equation and looking at the situation from a fresh perspective can help in dealing with the problem. Answer the following questions from different perspectives and see what solutions you can come up with.

  • “Is there a good reason for this feeling?”
  • “What is the cause of this feeling?”
  • “What is a better way of dealing with this feeling or situation?”

Try to imagine advice someone would give you if they knew you were feeling this way. Use their advice to help pull you out of the negative emotion.

Imaginative Substitution

My family and I were on our way to a holiday gathering and before we had left home a conversation with one of my relatives had really tripped an angry trigger in me. I was feeling pretty annoyed and was having a very hard time letting it go. I didn’t want to be in a bad mood when we arrived at our destination so I was trying to think of a way to get past it. I really wanted to enjoy the day with everyone. So I took out my journal and wrote this question: “What do I really want?”

I started writing my answer to the question. I described the dream home I want to build in the next few years. I started it at the beginning of the day. I was waking up in my comfortable bed in my beautiful master suite. I proceeded to take a tour of my house and describe with as much detail each room as I walked through. I even added my cat into it as he followed me to each room. Sitting on my lap when I sat down to meditate in the atrium. Chirping at me in the kitchen as I fixed myself a cup of tea.

It has a wonderful, relaxing effect on my mood. I was so happy and at peace in my future home that I forgot all about the earlier conversation that had put my mood off in the first place. We all ended up having a wonderful time that day.

Imagination is a powerful tool. Use it as much as you can.

Count Your Blessings

Giving gratitude for what you have instead of thinking about what you don’t have or about things that annoy you can turn your mood around. It should be pretty easy to come up with ten things you are grateful for. Here’s a few you can start with:

  • I am so happy and grateful now that I have friends and family who love me (or pets).
  • I am so happy and grateful now that I have food to eat.
  • I am so happy and grateful now that I have shelter.
  • I am so happy and grateful for the comfortable bed I woke up in this morning.
  • I am so happy and grateful I have the ability to think for myself.

You can add on from there.

Understand Your Power

You are a powerful creative being. You have the ability to choose the thoughts you think. No one can “make” you think a thought you don’t want to think.

Isn’t that awesome?! No one but you can decide what you think. Practice choosing thoughts that make you happy and at peace. Practice rejecting thoughts that don’t serve you.

Any time you have a thought that is causing you discomfort, take a moment and ask yourself, “Does this thought serve me in any way?” If the answer is “no” then find a better feeling thought.

It doesn’t even have to be a perfectly positive thought, it just needs to be better than the previous thought. Then choose another, better feeling thought until you can find a thought that does serve you. If you practice this a few times it will get easier and easier to grab that positive thought right away.

Practice Gratitude Daily

Coming back to gratitude…it’s best to practice gratitude daily so that you can keep yourself in a positive light every day.

Here is a gratitude exercise suggested by Bob Proctor. Practice it every day for 30 days and it will become a wonderful habit for you.

  1. Write down 10 things you’re grateful for (could even be a future event) – it is critical that you inject this exercise with deep feeling.
  2. Send love to 3 people who are bothering you. By sending them love you can release them from your attention and focus on more positive people and activities.
  3. Ask Spirit for guidance for the day. Guidance can be for anything: a productive day, help with your business, interactions with people. Whatever you feel you need guidance for.

If you take this seriously and really commit to it amazing things will start to happen in your life!

I am so happy and grateful you took a few moments to read my article. 🙂

Go out and make today a positive day!

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3 Steps to Overcoming Setbacks

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Life has a way of…well, happening. No matter how great of a planner you are, at some point something beyond your control will throw a monkey wrench into the works.

You can’t always control other people and extenuating circumstances. Things happen that can mess with your plans, causing setbacks, delays, and disappointments.

What do you do when that happens? How do you regroup, push forward, and succeed in spite of…or, rather, because of these little detours?

I’ve found the following three actions very helpful to getting back on your successful path:

First – Disrupt the Pattern

You’ve laid out your best plans for a new endeavor. You are excited and looking forward to getting your business up and running, smoothly and successfully. You can see that life of wealth and freedom awaiting you and the thought of that gives you feelings of joy and happy anticipation. Then something happens…a challenge…a bump in the road…and your feelings of joy become feelings of stress, fear, worry. You start imagining the worst.

You need to disrupt this powerful pattern of limiting thoughts.

One of the best ways to do this is to drop everything you are doing associated with the challenge. Instead, go do something you love and that you know you’re great at.

When you do this, you put yourself in a state of power, productivity, and positive associations. With some distance from the problem you will gain a better perspective. This allows you to see things as they really are, instead of clouding the challenge in negative emotions.

You can do this in a few minutes or an afternoon. Whatever time you need to get in a state of peak performance.

Second – Brainstorm with Quality Questions

Once your mind is clear, it is time to assess the damages and make new plans.

To do this, schedule a 1-5 hour brainstorming session. You can do this by yourself, but involving key players in your life and business is even better. A mentor is ideal.

My friend Joshua Boswell has said on many occasions that “Questions are the Key”. During your brainstorming session, it is critical that you focus on quality questions. Here are a few examples:

  • How can this challenge launch my business forward?
  • What is great about this challenge?
  • What new opportunities does this setback present?
  • What can be done to make this situation perfect?

There is a universal truth that every crisis contains a seed of opportunity.

Some of our greatest gains as human beings have come out of the greatest crises we’ve faced as a species.

There have been far too many wars on our planet, but as horrific as they are, wars accelerate the advances in science and technology far beyond what they are during peacetime. The crisis that war brings sparks people to think in completely different ways to solve an immediate need.

The Germans during World War II encrypted practically every message they sent out. An incredible team at Bletchley Park was tasked with decoding these messages, giving the Allies a huge advantage in the war. In the process they created the world’s first computer.

Since then computer technology has evolved and allowed people like you and me to work from anywhere to build our businesses and create spectacular lifestyles!

The human mind will always overcome…and so can you.

Third – Act!

Once you see the new opportunities and have a simple plan, it’s time to act.

There is nothing more powerful than work…taking action…to dispel the gloom of a setback.

As you act, remember that you can use the power of games, goals, team, and time limits to help energize you and bring fulfillment.

Remember these three simple steps the next time you are faced with a challenge. Stay positive and don’t be afraid to ask your peers or mentor for help.

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